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“You have to find yourself again after becoming

“You have to find yourself again after becoming a mom…”

But what if you’re not lost—you’re just changing?

We hear it all the time: “Get back to who you were.” “Rediscover yourself.” “Don’t lose yourself in motherhood.”

But here’s the truth: You are not the same person you were before. And that’s not a problem to fix—it’s a transformation to embrace.

Matrescence (the process of becoming a mother) isn’t about going back—it’s about moving forward into a new version of yourself. One that holds your past self with love while making space for who you are now.

💡 Instead of searching for the “old you,” ask: Who am I becoming?

Motherhood isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about evolving. And you deserve to grow into that change with self-compassion, not pressure.

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Motherhood shifts you in ways you never expect. I

Motherhood shifts you in ways you never expect.

It pulls pieces of you forward, tucks others away, and sometimes introduces new parts of you that you never saw coming.

Like… adult coloring books. 😬

I used to doom-scroll to decompress.

Now I reach for “Mommy’s Special Markers” and a coloring book that’s been sitting at the bottom of my desk for years. Not because I’m an artist (I’m not), but because I’m an overstimulated mom who needs an off-ramp for my brain.

Is it still a form of disassociation? Yeah, it is. But I don’t walk away from my coloring feeling worse about myself, comparing myself to others, or trying to be someone I’m not.

Matrescence isn’t just about losing parts of yourself—it’s about discovering new ones. And right now? This is apparently one of mine. 🤷🏻‍♀️

💬 What’s something you do now that you never would’ve considered before becoming a mom? Drop it below—I bet you’re not alone. ⬇️

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If this is self care…😵‍💫 Them: “Just

If this is self care…😵‍💫

Them: “Just make time for yourself.”
Moms: Stop. It’s not that simple.

If a face mask during bathtime was the answer, we’d all be thriving. But here we are—slapping on eye patches between tantrums, deep-conditioning during school drop-off, and calling it “self-care.”

The problem? It’s not just about time.

What we really need is:
✨ Structural support: A culture that values mothers beyond their productivity.
✨ Shared responsibility: Because “a break” shouldn’t mean rearranging your entire life to make it happen.
✨ Recognition of 💛matrescence💛: Motherhood changes you, and figuring out who you are now should not be an afterthought.

Losing yourself in motherhood isn’t a time-management issue. It’s a societal issue. And rediscovering who you are shouldn’t be reduced to five-minutes of deep contemplation in your dark closet during bedtime battles (just me??).

Moms don’t just need “me time.” We need real space to evolve, to integrate who we were with who we are becoming. And that takes more than just squeezing in a few micro-moments of self-care—it takes rethinking the entire system that makes us feel like we have to.

💬 Tell me, what’s the most ridiculous way you’ve had to sneak in “self-care”? Let’s laugh (or cry) together. 😬

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You were never meant to disappear inside motherhoo

You were never meant to disappear inside motherhood.

Yes, it stretches you, challenges you, and shifts your priorities. But it doesn’t erase the parts of you that existed before. You are still you—just evolving in ways you never expected.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting something beyond motherhood… even when all you ever wanted was to be a mom, if you’ve ever struggled with the feeling that you’ve lost yourself… know this:

✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You don’t need to “find” yourself—you’re still here.
✨ Your needs, desires, and identity still matter.
✨ You’re not alone.

Let’s start unlearning the idea that motherhood is supposed to complete us and start embracing the truth: We are already whole.

👉 What’s one part of yourself you refuse to lose inside motherhood? Drop it below—I’d love to hear!

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👇 This needs to be said. 👇 For 5 (and a hal

👇 This needs to be said. 👇

For 5 (and a half) years, I’ve been navigating the evolving journey of motherhood, and here’s what I’ve realized:

Motherhood isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about ✨becoming✨ But society tells us otherwise. We’re expected to disappear into the role, to make motherhood our entire identity, or risk being judged as “not mom enough.”

I refuse to accept that. Here’s why:
➡️ Identity isn’t static—it’s in constant motion.
➡️ Motherhood adds layers, but it doesn’t erase what came before.
➡️ The idea that we have to choose between being “good mothers” or maintaining a sense of self is part of a false narrative we’ve been told.

✨ What’s something about YOU that motherhood hasn’t erased? Let’s celebrate who we are—mother AND more.

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